December 23, 2009

When to drink water

Correct timing to take water will maximize its effectiveness to Human body.

Two (02) glass of water - After waking up - Helps activate internal organs.

One (01) glasses of water - 30 minutes before meal - Help digestion.

One (01) glass of water - Before taking a bath - Helps lower blood pressure.

One (01) glass of water - Before sleep - To avoid stroke or heart attack.

December 22, 2009

The Life and Death of Britanny Murphy

Brittany Murphy (November 10, 1977 – December 20, 2009) was an American actress and singer. She starred in films such as Clueless, Girl, Interrupted, 8 Mile, Uptown Girls, Sin City, Happy Feet, and Riding in Cars with Boys. She also voiced Luanne Platter on the animated TV series King of the Hill.

Actress Brittany Murphy was found dead on Sunday, December 20th (2009) as TMZ and other media outlets have confirmed. The 'Clueless' and 'Girl, Interrupted' actress went into full cardiac arrest, and paramedics were unable to revive her. She was pronounced dead upon arrival at Cedars-Sinai Medical Center in Los Angeles.

The 911 call reporting the incident was made from the home of Simon Monjack, whom Murphy married in 2007. RadarOnline is reporting that Monjack himself made the phone call, and that the Los Angeles Coroner's office is launching an investigation into Murphy's death. The police "could not say whether it would point to any criminal conduct," Los Angeles Times sources say.

Life and death of Chris Henry

Chris Henry was an American football wide receiver who played five seasons in the National Football League for the Cincinnati Bengals. He played college football at West Virginia and was drafted by the Bengals in the third round of the 2005 NFL Draft.

Chris Henry was involved in a string of legal troubles during his professional career, which include several arrests for such offenses as driving under the influence, marijuana possession, assault, and criminal damage. He was suspended for the first four games of the 2008 season.

Chris Henry died on December 17, 2009 from injuries sustained a day earlier in a vehicular accident.

Chris Henry
Height: 6-4 Weight: 200
Born: 5/17/1983 Belle Chasse , LA
College: West Virginia
Experience: 5 seasons
High School: Belle Chasse HS [LA]

December 20, 2009

When to power off the PC (electrically)

On a most stressful day, my PC at work suddenly started to mess things up and kept acting up. I thought I was left no choice but to restart Windows. But then, I was going to see, restarting the pesky operating system was not an option, because it turned out that Windows XP had taken away that right away from me:

You do not have permission to shut down and restart this computer.

What this means: keep suffering from Windows - pay the price for not switching to a Mac or not having your boss to do so.

December 08, 2009

To stay or leave? - that is the question

Excerpts from “Too Good to leave, Too Bad to stay” by Mira Kirshenbaum

  1. Thinking about that time when things between you and your partner were at their best. Looking back, would you now say that things were really very good between you then?
  2. Has there been more that one incident of physical violence in your relationship?
  3. Have you already made a concrete commitment to pursue a course of action or lifestyle that definitely excludes your partner?
  4. If God or some omniscient being said it was okay to leave, would you feel tremendously relieved and have a strong sense that finally you could end your relationship?
  5. In spite of your problems, do you and your partner have even one positively pleasurable activity or interest (besides children) that you currently share and look forward to sharing in the future, something you do together that you both like and that gives both of you a feeling of closeness for awhile?
  6. Would you say that to you, your partner is basically nice, reasonable intelligent, not too neurotic, okay to look at, and most of the time smells alright?
  7. Does you partner bombard you with difficulties when you try to get even the littlest thing you want; and is it your experience that almost any need you have gets obliterated; and if you ever do get what you want, is getting it such and ordeal that you don’t feel it was worth the effort?
  8. Does it seem to you that your partner generally and consistently blocks your attempts to bring up topics or raise questions, particularly about things you care about?
  9. Have you got to the point, when your partner says something, that you usually feel it’s more likely that he’s lying than that he’s telling the truth?
  10. In spite of admirable qualities, and stepping back from any temporary anger or disappointment, do you genuinely like your partner, and does your partner seem to like you?
  11. Do you feel willing to give your partner more than you’re giving already, and are you willing to do this the way things are between you now, without any expectation of being paid back?
  12. Do both you and your partner want to touch each other and look forward to touching each other and make efforts to touch each other?
  13. Do you feel a unique sexual attraction to your partner?
  14. Does your partner neither see nor admit things you’ve tried to tell him/her to acknowledge that make your relationship too bad to stay in?
  15. Is there something your partner does that makes your relationship too bad to stay in and that s/he acknowledges but that, for all intents and purposes, s/he’s unwilling to do anything about?
  16. This problem your partner has that makes you want to leave; have you tried to let it go, ignore it, stop letting it bother you? And were you successful?
  17. As you think about your partner’s problem that makes your relationship too bad to stay in, does s/he acknowledge it and is s/he willing to do something about it and is s/he able to change ?
  18. Has your partner violated what for you is a bottom line?
  19. Is there a clearly formulated, passionately held difference between you that has to do with the shape and texture and quality of your life as you actually experience it?
  20. In spite of all the ways you’re different, would you say that deep down or in some respect that’s important to you, your partner is someone just like you in a way you feel good about?
  21. With your new, more complete, more realistic set of information about what it would be like for you if you left, have you discovered new, more probable realities that now make leaving seem impossible, difficult or unpleasant?
  22. With your new, more complete, more realistic set of information about what it would be like for you if you left, have you discovered new, more probable realities that now make leaving seem easier, more attractive and make staying no longer desirable?
  23. Does your partner do such a good job of conveying the idea that you’re a nut or a jerk or a loser or an idiot about parts of yourself that are important to you that you’ve started to really become demonstrably convinced of it yourself?
  24. As you think about your partner’s disrespect, is it clear to you that you do everything possible to limit your contact with your partner, except for times where you absolutely must interact?
  25. Do you feel that your partner, overall and more often than not, shows concrete support for and genuine interest in the things you’re trying to do that are important to you?
  26. Whatever was done that caused hurt and betrayal, do you have a sense that the pain and damage has lessened with time?
  27. Is there a demonstrated capacity and mechanism for genuine forgiveness in your relationship?
  28. Is it likely that, if you have a reasonable need, you and your partner will be able to work out a way for you to get it met without too painful a struggle?
  29. Is there some particular need that’s so important to you that if you don’t get it met, looking back you’ll say your life wasn’t satisfying, and are you starting to get discouraged about ever having it met?
  30. Given the way your partner acts, does it feel as though in getting close to you what he’s most interested in is subjecting you to his anger and criticism?
  31. When the subject of intimacy comes up between you and your partner, is there generally a battle over what intimacy is and how to get it?
  32. Does your relationship support your having fun together?
  33. Do you currently share goals and dreams for your life together?
  34. If all the problems in your relationship were magically solved today, would you still feel ambivalent about whether to stay or leave?

Excerpts from “Too Good to leave, Too Bad to stay” by Mira Kirshenbaum

October 14, 2009

How clouds work

A weird illustration  by Dan Meth for the upcoming graphic novel anthology “This Will Explain Everything” to be published by the Scotland-based Forest Publishing very soon...

October 10, 2009

"DENIAL" One of the most misused terms in modern psychology

Anyone familiar with the "jargon" of mental health professionals of all persuasions has undoubtedly heard the term denial. What you may not know is that it's fairly common not only for professionals but also for others to use the term improperly or in a poorly defined or overgeneralized manner. In classical (psychodynamic) psychology, denial is an unconscious ego defense mechanism. Basically, that means that a person unconsciously puts up a barrier to experiencing what is too painful to consciously bear. An example might be a situation in which a woman who has been married to the same man for 40 years has just had to rush him to the hospital because while they were out in the yard working, he began having trouble speaking and appeared in some distress. The doctors later tell her that he has suffered a stroke, is now virtually brain-dead, and will not recover. Yet, every day she comes to his bedside, holds his hand, and talks to him. The nurses tell her he cannot hear, but she talks to him anyway. The doctors tell her he will not recover, but she tells herself, “I know he’ll pull through, he’s such a strong man.” This woman is in a unique psychological state – the state of denial. She can hardly believe what has happened. Not long ago she was in the yard with her darling, enjoying one of their favorite activities. The day before, they were at a friend’s home for a get-together. He seemed the picture of happiness and health. He didn’t seem that sick when she brought him to the hospital. Now – in a blink of an eye – they’re telling her he’s gone. This is more emotional pain than she can bear just yet. She’s not ready to accept that her partner of 40 years won’t be coming home with her. She’s not quite ready yet to face a life without him. So, her unconscious mind has provided her with an effective (albeit likely temporary) defense against the pain. Eventually, as she becomes better able to accept the distressing reality, her denial mechanism will break down, and when it does, the pain it served to contain will gush forth and she will grieve.

Now, let’s take another example of so-called "denial." Joe, the class bully, strolls up to one of his unsuspecting classmates and engages in one of his favorite mischievous pastimes: pushing the books out of her arms and spilling them on the floor. It just so happens that the hall monitor sees the event and sternly hollers: “Joe!,” to which Joe, spreading his arms wide open and with a look of great shock, surprise, and innocence on his face asks: “Whaaaat?” Is Joe in an altered psychological state? Does he really not understand the reality of what has happened? Does he really think he didn’t do anything? Is he in an altered mental state brought about by more emotional pain than he could possibly bear? Is he so consumed with shame and/or guilt for what he’s done that he simply can’t bear to believe he actually did such a horrible thing? More than likely, no. Joe is probably more concerned that he has another detention hall punishment coming, which means another note to his parents, and possibly even suspension. So, he’s got one long-shot tactic to try. He’ll do his best to make the Hall Monitor believe she didn’t really see what she thought she saw. The hallway was crowded. Maybe it was someone else. Maybe it was just an “accident.” If he acts surprised, innocent, and righteously indignant enough, maybe, just maybe, she’ll begin to doubt. He prays that unlike him, maybe she is neurotic enough (i.e. has an overactive conscience and excessive sense of guilt or shame) to possibly think she might be misjudging him, maybe she’ll even berate herself for jumping to conclusions or for causing a possibly innocent party emotional pain. This tactic may have worked before. Maybe it will work again.

Professionals and lay persons alike often misuse the term denial. They fail to consider that not all "denial" is the same. Sometimes, denial is truly an unconsious psychological state. Sometimes, it's a refusal to admit a problem. Sometimes, it's a tactic of manipulation and impression management. Sometimes, it's merely a way of lying. The problem is that these distinctions are not always made. Often, when a person denies, it's simply assumed that their denial is a "defense" against the unbearable. In my experience, the term "in denial" is widely overused. Disturbed characters of all sorts frequently engage in denial. It's a rareity however, that they do so because they are in such inner distress over their behavior that they simply can't consciously accept what they're doing.

September 17, 2009

Ten Facts Credit Card Companies Don't Want You to Know

The idea of a credit card is a peculiar notion that has only come about in the last fifty years. Instead of paying for purchases with wealth that we already have, we are now borrowing money for every day purchases, even things as quick trip to McDonalds or a bottle of pop from a vending machine. Debt has become a societal norm and it’s here to stay. There’s nothing inherently wrong with debt, however when debt is misused, it can become a major financial nightmare. Credit cards are one of the most abused and misused financial products on the market. Here are ten facts that the credit card companies would prefer that you didn’t know.

1. Universal Default Provisions – Even if you are making your payments as agreed with one credit card, but happen to be late on another payment or if your credit score happens to go down a bit, the credit card company could jump your interest rate by upwards of an additional 20%. You could be paying around 14% for a decent credit card, but if another bank thinks you missed a payment on an entirely different loan, your rate could jump upwards of 35%!

2. Very Few Pay Their Cards Off – According to PBS Frontline, there are 35 million Americans who only pay the minimum payment on their credit cards. These people could be paying for their everyday purchases and associated finance charges for decades before paying it off. By federal law, the banks only have to require you to make a minimum payment which takes care of all the fees per the month and one percent of the principal balance. Paying this minimum amount will cause many Americans to pay three or four times what they should have for a product

3. There’s No Maximum Interest Rate – Credit card companies specifically state in just about every card holder agreement that they can change your rate as they please and without notice. Most major banks reside in states that have no usury rate either, so in theory they could charge you whatever rate they pleased without telling you and it would be entirely legal to do so.

4. Credit Card Debt Correlates to Bankruptcy – When people file bankruptcy, more often than not they have extremely high credit card balances which are just beating them up financially. They get into some sort of mess and charge everything to their credit cards, making the problem worse. There is a statistical correlation between having high credit-card debt and filing bankruptcy. The Motley Fool states that 1,300,000 credit card users filed bankruptcy in 2005.

5. Late Payment Fiascos – In 1996, the Supreme Court made a ruling which eliminated restrictions on late fees that could be charged to consumers. Now at most major credit card companies if they even think that your payment is late by an hour, they will charge you a fee of $30, $40, or at some places even $50. Some major banks have even been accused of intentionally not depositing checks which came in on time, and then charging their customers undo late-fees.

6. American’s Are Up To Their Eyeballs in Credit Card Debt – According to the Motley fool, Americans have borrowed a total of $1,700,000,000,000 in consumer debt. Statistically, the average American carries $8,562 in credit card debt, and there was a total of $50,000,000,000 charged in finance charges annually.

7. Most Rewards Programs Aren’t Worth It – A lot of banks try to lure consumers into getting credit cards with rewards programs that are supposed to give consumers an incentive to use their credit card. However the money used to give out the rewards doesn’t come from thin air. Consumers are paying for their own rewards through finance charges and membership fees whether they are realizing it or not. With one of Wells Fargo’s rewards programs, you have to spend $5000 a year just to break even with the rewards program membership fee.

8. Credit Cards Only Serve One Purpose – If you haven’t figured it out yet, the credit card exist for one reason and one reason only—to put you into more debt. No one wants to have huge amounts of debt, so why make use of a tool that’s only purpose is to get you into debt? The best way to get out of credit card debt is to never get into it in the first place.

9. Statistically You Spend More With Credit – A Dunn and Bradstreet study stated that if you pay with a credit card, you will statistically spend 12%-18% more on your purchases as opposed to paying with cash. When you pay cash, you feel the money leaving you and it hurts; with credit cards that’s not the case. If you use a credit card, you will spend more money whether you realize it or not.

10. You Can’t Outsmart the Credit Card Industry – Credit card companies spend millions of dollars each year figuring out consumer habits and behaviors so that they can separate you from your money. They know how people act and how people think, and statistically will make money off of you. A lot of people think they are getting rich of the credit card industry through rewards points and arbitrage games, but the reality is that they’re not making much at all and are adding all sorts of risk into their life. Credit card companies can easily absorb these cost, because knows that statistically they will make much more money from people than they lose to a couple of people here and there not making the industry any money.

August 06, 2009

Psychologists Reject Gay ‘Therapy’

Published: August 5, 2009

The American Psychological Association declared Wednesday that mental health professionals should not tell gay clients they can become straight through therapy or other treatments.

In a resolution adopted by the association’s governing council, and in an accompanying report, the association issued its most comprehensive repudiation of so-called reparative therapy, a concept espoused by a small but persistent group of therapists, often allied with religious conservatives, who maintain that gay men and lesbians can change.

No solid evidence exists that such change is likely, says the resolution, adopted by a 125-to-4 vote. The association said some research suggested that efforts to produce change could be harmful, inducing depression and suicidal tendencies.

Instead of seeking such change, the association urged therapists to consider multiple options, which could include celibacy and switching churches, for helping clients live spiritually rewarding lives in instances where their sexual orientation and religious faith conflict.

The association has criticized reparative therapy in the past, but a six-member panel added weight to that position by examining 83 studies on sexual orientation change conducted since 1960. Its report was endorsed by the association’s governing council in Toronto, where the association’s annual meeting is being held this weekend.

The report breaks ground in its detailed and nuanced assessment of how therapists should deal with gay clients struggling to remain loyal to a religious faith that disapproves of homosexuality.

Judith Glassgold, a psychologist in Highland Park, N.J., who led the panel, said she hoped the document could help calm the polarized debate between religious conservatives who believe in the possibility of changing sexual orientation and the many mental health professionals who reject that option.

“Both sides have to educate themselves better," Ms. Glassgold said. “The religious psychotherapists have to open up their eyes to the potential positive aspects of being gay or lesbian. Secular therapists have to recognize that some people will choose their faith over their sexuality.”

One of the largest organizations promoting the possibility of changing sexual orientation is Exodus International, a network of ministries whose core message is “freedom from homosexuality through the power of Jesus Christ.”

Its president, Alan Chambers, describes himself as someone who “overcame unwanted same-sex attraction.” Mr. Chambers and other evangelicals met with association representatives after the panel was formed in 2007, and he expressed satisfaction with parts of the report that emerged.

A version of this article appeared in print on August 6, 2009, on page A16 of the New York edition.